Hello 2013
It’s been awhile since my
last blog. My busy life was rudely
interrupted last year by breast cancer.
Luckily, I was able to
continue working as a special event planner.
While I tried to keep the situation private my hair gave me away. Think hair to bald and back again. My dark brown wig was my new best friend and
I was genuinely shocked when my hair grew back grey. Considering that wedding plans start nine to
twelve months ahead of the wedding day, my 2012 brides knew something was up. I bonded with many of their mothers.
During this time my 22 year
old daughter, Jessica, took on an expanded roll as my co-planner. She grew up in our family’s catering business
and was in awe of weddings from the time she could speak. She had worked and supervised receptions since
high school but planning a wedding was a whole new experience. Last year she met with wedding couples and their
families, helped them plan every detail and coordinated the weddings from
beginning to end. With her calming demeanor and easy smile she
earned the trust of our bridal couples and never let them down. It was as though she was born to do this.
And maybe she was.
When Jessica was five she sat
by my desk, as she often did, while I finished work so we could go to the park. As I fielded my last call I noticed her
mimicking me. She lifted her clenched
hand to her ear and said “Can I help you?…Do you have a date in mind?…Where
will the ceremony be?”
She had it down.
Wedding planning and catering
is hard work but it’s also very satisfying.
There’s something about a wedding day that makes every bride
beautiful—and it’s not just the perfect hair and make-up. It’s an overwhelming happiness they can’t
seem to contain. As a planner I try to
get every detail right but ultimately the weather is up to Mother Nature, guest
arrival is subject to traffic and the minute-by-minute timeline is just a
suggestion. Once the pageantry of the
ceremony is over a wedding becomes a great big family party with a life of its
own.
So now we’re well into 2013. There are new brides ahead, each with a
vision of her wedding day. Some plans
seem to pre-date the groom, influenced by the bride's memories of past weddings and a
desire to celebrate in her style while still honoring family traditions. It’s serious business now but in the end there
will be tears of happiness and lots of laughter.
Married for 27 years, I remember
every detail of my wedding and the birth of my two children--three “highlight
days” that make every other day seem ordinary.
Last year reminded me how important family and friends are (in good
times and in bad), how quickly the years go by and how fast our children grow
up.
On September 1, 2013 my
daughter Jessica is getting married. We
have a lot of planning to do.